Blog: The Perils of Great Expectations

On NYE party pressures...

It's time to tear the plastic off that motivational/costumed-babies-sleeping-on-giant-flowers/leggy-swimsuit-model calendar you received as a desperation gift from some co-worker or distant relative. We're about to begin a new calendar year!

We've discussed the perils of the New Year's Resolution. This meditation on the change-over in calendar years will focus less on the promise and potential of the next 365 days and will instead concentrate on surviving the next 24 hours with your good attitude intact.

I speak of The New Year's Eve Expectation of Grandeur. (Insert ominous music of your choice.)

There is something about the level of expectation placed on this night that has always felt, to me, somewhat forced. For weeks beforehand, we all hear of the extraordinary importance of being at just the right venue or event, with just the right person, wearing just the right outfit and imbibing and ingesting just the right treats at just the right time.

I am staunchly in favor of the idea of setting aside a random winter's eve for a healthful bout of gluttony and debauchery. Blowing off a little (or possibly a great deal of) steam after the strain of winter weather and stress of the holidays seems reasonable, even wise to me.

What bothers me is the notion that how one elects to spend this one evening necessarily sets the tone for the next year of your life. That is a lot of expectation to heap on to just one night.

Maybe it's just me, but I've never had a truly magical New Year's Eve. I have had truly magical nights on other calendar days, and so feel reasonably confident that I can recognize one when I'm in the middle of it. I have had some lovely New Year's Eves and others that I have judiciously elected to never again speak of. Ultimately, though, in my experience there is no correlation between a person's actions on Dec. 31 and his fortune on, say, the following Feb. 3 or June 17. 

If you do have a storybook evening, I sincerely hope that it does carry over and is a sign of good things to come for the upcoming year. If, however, you mange to make a tremendous botch of the whole thing, as I have often done, there is no need to hide under the couch for the next 12 months.

As the inimitable Scarlet O'Hara* would say, “Tomorrow is another day.”

Not to mention, there is another New Year to celebrate in just a few weeks... and this one involves dragons!



*For me, Gone with the Wind and Great Expectations are inseparably linked, having read them back to back one summer many years ago, as a way to fill the hours spent tanning in the backyard. This gave me both a strange take on literature and very, very, very bad skin. 

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Emilie Raguso December 31, 2011 at 12:49 AM
I can totally relate to this one... how do you avoid getting too hyped up? I need tips!
Michele Feltman Strider January 02, 2012 at 04:35 PM
This year we went out on the day before NYE, to a dance event over in Marin -- http://www.thegroovegarden.com. Good music and a great vibe, plus it left me too tired to do anything on NYE but hang out at home and drink champagne.


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